There’s no “right” way to get through the holidays. The authentic way is to attend to what’s in your heart and design, as best as you can, a holiday that is right for you and your loved ones.

This week, my wife’s dear aunt passed away peacefully at the age of 98, after a good and meaningful life. Also this week, a close friend was diagnosed with a brain tumor and spent his sixty third birthday in surgery. And another friend shared his story with me this week of losing his son to suicide. Sometimes Christmas is not the happiest time of the year.

This year’s holiday I will keep up my mental and physical health routines, spend time outdoors, connect with the most important people in my life, and make room for a gamut of emotions, including grief, gratitude, and joy. Above all, I will strive to keep it simple.

What’s in your heart in this holiday season?