Do you really have to be vulnerable to be a leader?

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Yes.

If you want people to trust you, buy into your vision, and engage with you. But know what vulnerability is and what it isn’t.

Vulnerability is not: bringing weakness and problems to your team, lowering your standards, abandoning mental toughness, showy expressions of emotions, or saying everything you think and feel.

Vulnerability is about being open with your team in the words and actions of:

  1. Your Vision. People need to know why the work you are doing is important to you.
  2. Your Values. They need to know what standards you will hold yourself accountable to.
  3. Your Requests. Your team needs to know they are needed and valued for their contribution.
  4. Your Mistakes. No one will think less of you when you admit you are wrong, apologize, and show sincere commitment to do better.
  5. Your Imperfections. No one’s perfect. Be open to see blind spots and be willing to do something about them.
  6. Your Warmth. Take the time to show you care through kindness and genuine interest. If you don’t care, give up the mantle of leadership.
  7. Your Courage. Courage isn’t the absence of fear. It’s showing people that you are committed to overcome it.

What are leaders accountable for?

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When you move into a position of leadership, you don’t get more power; you get more accountability.

Six key accountabilities that come with leadership:

  1. Strong character. The best leaders are integrated leaders. They live in alignment with their values. They earn respect from others through their own self-respect.
  2. Modeling personal development. Positional leaders set the tone of the culture. The best gift to your team is your own development that will inspire passion around you.
  3. An ownership mindset. The best leaders understand that all blame is a waste of time. They foster personal responsibility by modeling the way.
  4. A commitment to the strengths of team members. Most of us have little sense of our unique abilities. The best leaders build on people’s strengths, not their weaknesses.
  5. A results orientation. The best leaders have high standards and finish well. They are committed to building a culture oriented toward results.
  6. A servant mentality. Servant leadership focuses on supporting and empowering others to achieve results rather than accumulating power or personal gain.

If you are committed to being an accountable leader, join me in my complimentary webinar on March 28: https://davidirvine.com/complimentary-webinars/

Five Common People Myths

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  1. You can fix people if you send them for coaching or therapy.
  2. If you want to make changes in your life, strengthen your weaknesses.
  3. To show care and support, make it easier for people.
  4. Tough conversations harm relationships.
  5. When someone’s personal life is a mess, it doesn’t necessarily affect their work.

Five Truths About People

  1. None of us need “fixing.” However, when motivated, coaching or therapy can help develop self-awareness and personal growth.
  2. Strengthening weakness is a bad investment of time and energy. Instead, invest in strengthening strengths and delegating weaknesses to someone whose strength is your weakness.
  3. You don’t support people by lowering your standards or making it easier for them. You support people by being in their corner in tough times.
  4. Tough conversations, if done effectively, will strengthen relationships.
  5. Life is one indivisible whole. Any area in your life that is in shambles will impact every area of your life. And improving any area in your life will also improve every area in your life.

Psychological Safety: It’s About Good Leadership

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Psychological safety, no matter how you spin it, boils down to basic good leadership. And good leadership is best measured by one question: Do people feel safe to bring you the bad news?

There’s always bad news. People make mistakes. Expectations aren’t met. Frustrations arise.

Don’t gauge the health of your leadership by the amount of bad news, but by how people deal with it. If you aren’t hearing bad news maybe people don’t feel safe to tell you the truth. You can’t simply have an “open door policy” and expect that people will bound through that door. You have to get out of your office, engage, be intentional about listening to concerns, genuinely care about your people, value their input, and, above all, be honest about mistakes you make. You have to model bringing bad news responsibly – without blaming or criticizing.

Good leaders who make it safe to bring the bad news unlock potential, foster trust, drive innovation, and improve team performance.

What are you doing to make it safe for people to bring you the bad news?

From Struggle To Emergence: Adversity as a Call To Creation

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When I launched my speaking profession, I partnered exclusively with a speakers’ bureau. Speakers’ bureaus serve a great purpose as intermediaries between professional speakers and clients. They represented me, did all the negotiations, booking, marketing, and event coordination.

After three years of working with them, they went bankrupt. It was devastating. I was shocked, angry, and dismayed that a company I trusted could leave me with several thousands of dollars in unpaid invoices. There was security in that relationship. I could count on the work, clients were cared for, and the money was there, just like a “secure” corporate job.

Through the light of times perspective, I now see that the loss of the money and relationship turned out to be a good thing. Adversity can be something wanting to be born. Ending that relationship allowed me to take flight, spread my wings, and find my own way in the marketplace. I would not have found my voice and built my business to what it is today had I stayed in that comfortable, “secure” relationship.

Adversity truly is an opportunity to call forth our potential, summon our hidden strengths, and birth new possibilities – even if the labour of that birth can be painful and arduous.

How to recognize when your team is out of sync – and how to get back on track.

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Addressing the issue promptly is a crucial leadership skill.

Key indicators that your team may be out of sync:

  1. Disengagement: People coming late to meetings, reduced accountability, uneven distribution of work.
  2. Lack of Trust: People not opening up, shutting down, unacknowledged tension.
  3. Ineffective Leadership: Poor delegation, unclear direction, purpose, and expectations, decreased standards, a lack of accountability.

Strategies To Get Back On Track:

  1. Meet with each team member to identify root causes. Be open about your concerns. Find out why people are disengaged or lack trust, and get feedback on your leadership. Create a safe space for team members to share concerns and feedback.
  2. Assess whether the root causes stem from team dynamics, unresolved conflict, poor leadership, or individual hornets killing the bees.
  3. Address concerns directly. Acknowledge publicly that the team is out of sync and you are committed to solve the problem. Be open with your team about your intentions, your agreements, and your support requirements.

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