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Descending Everest: Why the Inner Journey is Essential for Authentic Leadership

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This summer I had the privilege of being a guest faculty at Gravitas Impact’s Business Advisor Growth Intensive in Vancouver, Washington. Gravitas Impact is a global community of premium coaches where experienced professionals sharpen their craft, expand their practice, and build lasting client impact. Keith Cupp, the founder, is committed to help coaches rise past the level of a trusted advisor to what he calls a true “Maestro.” Getting there requires a rigorous inner journey to see internal flaws and biases and address them head on. To unlock the potential of a coach – or any leader – you must be willing to look deep within yourself and see beyond your best qualities to where you fall short.

The “Other Everest” is a summit that is far more demanding than any external achievement and calls for courage, honesty, and endurance. This inner journey is the descent into where your greatest limitations and your untapped potential coexist. To lead with authenticity and influence in today’s complex world, this is not optional work. It is essential.

We often imagine leadership as something built outwardly—skills to acquire, strategies to implement, goals to achieve. But the truth is, the depth of your leadership is determined by the depth of your self-awareness. You cannot take others further than you have gone within yourself.

The inner journey is uncomfortable as it asks us to look not at our strengths, but at where we fall short. It requires a willingness to confront the biases, insecurities, and patterns that sabotage our effectiveness. These are not surface-level observations. This is the raw, unfiltered truth about who we are when the noise of the world fades.

And the mind will resist.

The mind, by its very nature, will offer easy answers, flattering narratives, and distractions. It will urge you toward busyness, avoidance, and anything to prematurely end the inquiry. But those defenses, while protective, also keep you stuck. They are like carrying unnecessary weight up a steep mountain—habits, assumptions, and blind spots that exhaust you and limit how far you can go.

The work is to pause, open the pack, and take an honest inventory.

This is not about self-criticism; it is about self-relationship. It is about developing a connection with your fears, your longings, and your contradictions so that you can lead from wholeness rather than fragmentation. In doing so, you begin to find your voice, one that is not shaped by what the world expects of you but grounded in truth.

The inner journey is a demanding and rewarding adventure. As you turn inward, you begin to discover who you really are beneath the roles, the achievements, and the noise. And from that place, your leadership gains a quiet authority that does not need to prove itself, only express itself.

If you are willing to begin, consider these three practices:

  1. Create space for stillness. Slow down intentionally. Whether through journaling, reflection, or silent walks, give yourself uninterrupted time to listen inwardly. Insight does not emerge in noise.
  2. Name what you avoid. Pay attention to the patterns you justify or ignore – defensiveness, blame, control, or withdrawal. Gently but honestly bring these into awareness without rushing to fix them.
  3. Seek honest feedback. Amid reflection, also invite feedback from people who will tell you the truth, not just what you want to hear. Others often see what we cannot, and their perspective can illuminate blind spots.

Descending Everest is not a one-time effort; it is a lifelong practice. But with each step inward, you lighten your load, strengthen your presence, and expand your capacity to lead. And in that journey, you do not just become a better leader—you become more fully yourself.

Resilient Leadership: Fostering Mental Toughness on Your Team

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A resilient team is not one that never feels pressure; it is one that learns how to be honest and stay steady when pressure arrives. Strong leaders build that steadiness by creating a culture of trust, reflection, and practical support, rather than expecting people to simply “tough it out”.

Not long ago, I worked with a leadership team that was entering one of the hardest periods of its history. The organization was growing rapidly – along with the workload. Staff were exhausted, and every meeting seemed to begin with bad news. One morning, after difficult and demanding previous weeks, a manager stood up in silence, looked around the room, and said, “I’m not sure we can carry on the way we are.” What happened next changed the tone of the entire team. Instead of minimizing the pressure, the leader acknowledged it, invited honest conversation, examined carefully the ways that the team could support each other more, and shifted the focus from blame to problem-solving. That moment did not remove the stress, but it opened a door to restoring confidence. The team began to believe that they could face hard things together.

Mental toughness is often misunderstood. It is not pretending everything is fine, nor is it pushing people to suppress emotion, and implicitly or explicitly told to “suck it up.” In leadership, it means helping people remain calm, focused, and effective under pressure while staying connected to purpose and one another. It is a blend of resilience, emotional regulation, and commitment, and it can be strengthened through deliberate habits and a supportive culture.

Here are three strategies to get started:

Start with psychological safety. Build an environment where people can speak honestly. Teams become stronger when people can admit mistakes, name concerns, and ask for help early. Psychological safety does not make a team soft; it makes them adaptable. When people are not busy protecting themselves, they can spend more energy solving problems.

Model this by being transparent about your own setbacks and by responding to bad news with curiosity instead of blame. A simple question like, “What are we learning here?” can shift the energy in a room. Over time, that kind of response teaches the team that pressure is something to navigate, not something to hide from.

Encourage recovery habits. Treat recovery as part of performance. Mental toughness is not built by constant strain; it is built by balancing effort with rest, reflection, and renewal. Teams that are always “on” eventually lose clarity, creativity, and patience.

Encourage short pauses before difficult meetings, regularly debrief after intense events, and initiate basic routines that support energy management. This might include walking breaks, breathing exercises, or a clear boundary around after-hours communication. When recovery is enouraged, people are less likely to burn out and more likely to stay engaged when the next challenge arrives.

Reframe challenge as growth. Help the team see difficulty as a training ground. Resilient leaders do not deny setbacks; they use them to build skill, confidence, and perspective. When people view challenge as evidence of failure, they become defensive. When they view it as part of growth, they become more courageous.

One useful practice is the “lessons learned” debrief. After a tough week, project, or incident, ask four questions: What went well? What was hard? How did we support each other? What will we do differently next time? This keeps the team from getting stuck in frustration and helps turn experience into wisdom. It also reinforces the idea that progress matters more than perfection.

Leadership That Lasts

Resilient leadership is not about pretending to be the strongest person in the room. It is about creating conditions where others can stay strong together. That means building trust, protecting recovery, and helping people reframe pressure as part of the work of growth.

Teams do not become mentally tough by accident. They become tougher when leaders consistently create safety, model steadiness, and encourage learning. In the end, the most resilient teams are not those that avoid difficulty, but those that learn how to move through it with courage, clarity, and connection.

Masks and Mindfulness: The Path to Authentic Living

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Now I become myself.

It’s taken time, many years and places,

I’ve been dissolved and shaken,

Worn other people’s faces…

– May Sarton

For the past year I’ve been a part of the Men’s Shed – a community-based, non-profit organization that provides a safe, supportive, and inclusive workshop space for men. We support men to be better men, to make a better community. At Men’s Sheds, men connect, share skills, and work on projects (like woodworking or repairs) to reduce isolation and improve men’s wellbeing. These spaces promote social interaction and wellness, offering a space for “shoulder-to-shoulder” conversation and purpose for men of all ages. I have learned from those in my Men’s Shed community that shed is not just a noun, a “place” where men meet; shed is also a verb: to rid oneself of something unwanted, to release or let go, to discharge something from within, and sometimes even to shed tears or to shed light on something.

I see men building practical things or meeting for coffee and support, or shedding burdens, shedding isolation, shedding silence, shedding perfectionism, and shedding the pressure of having to carry everything alone. We are also shedding many of the masks we have worn in our lifetime.

Many of us wear masks without realizing it. We learn early which parts of ourselves are acceptable, which feelings are safe to show, and which struggles should be hidden. We become skilled at appearing fine while feeling exhausted, competent while feeling lost, confident while feeling afraid. Over time, the masks can become so familiar that we mistake them for identity. The cost of constantly performing is often disconnection from ourselves, from one another, and from the deeper truth of what it means to be human.

Mindfulness offers a different path. It invites us to pause, notice what is real, and meet our experience without judgment. In that pause, we begin to see the difference between who we are and who we have been trying to be. Mindfulness does not ask us to become perfect. It asks us to become present. And presence, more than performance, is where authentic living begins.

What inspires me most about Men’s Sheds is that together we create a setting where men can work side by side without needing to force connection. Conversation grows naturally. Trust is built through shared purpose. The hands stay busy, but the heart is not left behind. That kind of environment matters because belonging often begins with simple things: showing up, being useful, and being seen.

The same is true in our personal lives. Authentic living is rarely dramatic. It usually begins with small acts of honesty. A man admits he is angry and wants to learn better ways of dealing with it. Another says he is grieving. Someone else reveals he is lonely, even when surrounded by people. These moments may seem ordinary, but they are deeply courageous. When one person lowers the mask, permission is given for others to do the same.

Being a part of this community reminds me that vulnerability is not weakness; it is a form of strength that makes connection possible. When men release the demand to be invulnerable, something human and healing can emerge. We begin to discover that we are not alone in our struggles, and that others do not need us to be flawless to respect us. In fact, authenticity often deepens respect because it is grounded in truth.

The beauty of this kind of shedding is that it makes room for light. When we let go of what we no longer need, we create space for what matters most: belonging, honesty, compassion, and shared humanity. We shed light not by pretending we have it all figured out, but by telling the truth about our lives. In that truth, we let the light in and help each other connect to our true nature in service to others.

Three Action Steps

  1. Notice the mask you wear most often. Ask yourself where you feel pressure to appear strong, certain, or unaffected. Simply noticing the pattern is the first step toward loosening its grip.
  2. Practice one honest conversation each week. Choose one trusted person and speak one true sentence you have been holding back. It might be about stress, grief, fear, or exhaustion. Honest words create connection.
  3. Create a regular space for release. This could be journaling, walking, prayer, meditation, or time in a shed, workshop, or shared space with others. Give yourself a place where you can let go of what you have been carrying.

In the end, masks may help us get through a moment, but they cannot sustain a life. Mindfulness helps us notice when we are hiding, and community helps us remember that we do not have to. The path to authentic living is not found in pretending to be untouchable. It is found in learning how to shed what is false, so that what is true can finally breathe.

Granting Grace in a Reactive World

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In today’s fast-paced, uncertain, high-stakes environment, emotions are running hotter than ever. The smallest trigger – a delayed email, a differing opinion – can ignite impatience and reactivity, turning colleagues, teams, and communities into emotional powder kegs. Whether you’re in customer service, leading or working in teams, you’re on the front lines of this tension, navigating burnout and conflict.

When we have insistent social media, polarized politics, and workplaces where one misstep can define a career, mistakes are met with instant blame rather than thoughtful inquiry, which then erodes trust and safety. When people brace for attack, they stop taking risks, avoid honest feedback, and hide their struggles.

But what if you could respond with grace instead of reflex? Reactivity may feel powerful in the moment, but it diminishes the opportunity for learning, letting go, and repair – the very conditions where genuine grace thrives.

Grace is often misunderstood as being “soft” or indulgent. However, grace can be fiercely honest: it clearly identifies harm and still allows people to grow rather than be discarded. It demands courage, humility, and restraint instead of the quick hit of righteous anger. Practiced well, grace doesn’t replace accountability; it strengthens it by anchoring consequences in respect and hope rather than humiliation.

Granting grace in a reactive world begins with reclaiming that space between stimulus and response. In that space, we can choose understanding over outrage, curiosity over condemnation, and connection over control.

Create Space Before You Respond: Practice the disciplined pause – choose to respond rather than react. People who maintain grace under pressure deliberately create a gap when they breathe, notice their emotions, and then act from their values instead of their impulses. This is not denial; it is emotional stewardship.

Take three slow breaths before replying, ask for a break in a heated meeting, or say something like, “I’d like to think about this and get back to you.” Leaders who do this model emotional regulation for others and reduce the emotional contagion that can quickly spread through a team or family system. Over time, this habit trains the nervous system to move from reflexive defensiveness toward calm clarity, allowing us to address hard truths without escalating the conflict.

Imagine receiving a sharply worded email that misrepresents your intentions. Instead of firing back, pause, stand up, and walk for two minutes. Then write a draft response you never send, just to drain some of the heat. From there, craft a shorter note or have a real conversation that starts with, “Help me understand how you experienced this,” shifting from accusation to curiosity. The situation may still be tense, but you have chosen grace over reactivity.

Practice Curious, Accountable Listening: Listen with both curiosity and accountability. Grace does not mean letting harmful behaviour slide; it means looking beyond the behaviour to understand what happened while still addressing the impact. By seeking first to understand, you can respond with compassion rather than control. Ask open questions, such as, “What was happening for you just before this?” “What need were you trying to meet?” “What feels most important to you right now?” You can affirm strengths while still being clear about boundaries and expectations, by asking, “I see how hard you’re trying” or “I know you care about this.” This approach encourages growth, not punishment, and reveals the fears, misunderstandings, or pressures that can driving behaviour.

When a team member misses a critical deadline, the reactive move is to label them careless, disengaged, or unaccountable. Grace-filled accountability begins with, “Walk me through what got in the way,” followed by, “Let’s set a realistic plan so this doesn’t happen again.” You address the failure, but you also invest in their capacity to do better next time.

Extend Grace to Yourself First: Self-grace is not self-excuse but honest, compassionate self-leadership. Many people who stay grounded under pressure have learned to notice their inner critic, attend to it, and then choose a wiser inner voice – more like a firm, kind parent than a raging judge. This internal stance makes it possible to admit mistakes, apologize, and course correct without collapsing into shame.

In practice, self-grace includes recognizing your limits, asking for help, and seeing missteps as data, not verdicts. It might mean speaking to yourself the way you would speak to a close friend – acknowledging the failure while affirming your worth and capacity to grow. When leaders model such self honesty, they normalize learning and reduce the fear that keeps teams stuck in perfectionism or secrecy.

Imagine a difficult conversation where you became defensive, but later recognize how you shut the other person down. Instead of telling yourself, “I’m terrible at conflict,” you say, “I got hooked there; next time I want to slow down and ask more questions.” You circle back, apologize for how you reacted, and invite a do over. That small act of self grace becomes a gift of grace to the relationship.

Choose Grace as a Way of Being: Granting grace in a reactive world is not a one time decision; it is a daily practice of pausing, listening, and leading yourself and others with compassion. In families, organizations, and communities, small moves such as taking a breath, asking one more question, or owning your part, can begin to shift the culture from fear to courage, from outrage to repair. Grace will not eliminate conflict or guarantee accountability, but it transforms both into opportunities for growth.

Cultivating Trust: The Invisible Foundation of Thriving Communities and Organizations

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The tightness in my chest began long before we reached the cave entrance in the Wasatch Mountains in Utah. The word claustrophobia – a condition I had struggled with all my life – was clamoring in my head. Yet there I stood, about to descend into the darkness, with my daughters at my side. I had promised myself this trip would be about more than adventure; it would be about courage, about proving that fear didn’t have to rule my life.

Our guide, Royce, met us with quiet authority. He didn’t rush or talk too much. His calm was steadying—a quiet confidence that came not from bravado, but from experience and compassion. I really thought that bravery would dissolve my fear, but when I looked into the blackness of that cave I folded over on the ground. The girls helped me up and Royce came over. “You okay?” he asked gently.

“I can’t do this.” I replied. “I’m claustrophobic and I can’t go in there.”

He looked me in the eye as he explained each step, and somehow, I believed him when he said clearly and confidently, “You can do this. I’ve got you. You aren’t alone. I’m going to give you the light. I want you right up front, right beside me. We’ll do this together.”

As we descended into the narrow opening, sunlight fading behind us, I felt the air thicken. Royce’s steady presence was like an anchor. Somewhere deep in that silent, suffocating darkness with only the flashlight in my hand and a guide beside me, I realized that trust is not about the absence of fear—it’s about believing someone will stand with you through it.

Trust is the silent architect of every meaningful human endeavor. Whether in friendships, families, workplaces, or communities, trust forms the scaffolding that supports progress, collaboration, and fulfillment. Trust enhances and multiplies the effectiveness of communities and organizations.

When trust is present, collaboration flourishes and siloed thinking fades away. Difficult conversations become stepping-stones to growth, not fuel for conflict. People are more willing to take creative risks, knowing that mistakes will be treated as learning opportunities rather than cause for blame. Teams can quickly adapt to change rather than being bogged down by second-guessing and micromanagement.

At its core, trust is a belief in and a reliance upon someone or something. To believe in someone comes from sensing a quiet integrity that is independent of titles or talk. It’s the instinctive trust that their actions align with deep values, even when no one is watching. You know you can rely on someone when they consistently show up on time, honor their promises without excuses, and competently deliver what they commit to do. We build that reliance through repeated proofs of accountability, creating a foundation of trust.

For organizations, trust is the lubricant that enables teams to work together effectively and to innovate boldly. It is the soil in which relationships grow, resilience flourishes, and creativity takes root. Trust is also a delicate flower. What takes forty years to build can be destroyed by one decision.

How to Make Trust Real

Trust does not simply appear; it is cultivated through small, consistent actions over time.

  1. Be humble. Humility is a true evaluation of conditions as they are; the willingness to face the brutal facts. It means having enough inner confidence that enables you to be open to expose your blind spots without defensiveness, while valuing others’ perspectives and contributions as equal or greater than your own. Being humble means having the inner confidence to extend trust before you expect it.
  2. Be vulnerable. Take the time to share your experiences, your values, your challenges, and your uncertainties appropriately. Being vulnerable means apologizing when you make a mistake and welcoming feedback.
  3. Be accountable. Don’t ever make a promise you don’t intend to keep. Honor your agreement, no matter how small. Hold high standards for yourself. We don’t earn trust be doing what’s easy. We earn trust be doing what we agreed to. Remember: you are the only person who cares why you let someone down.
  4. Be present. Put your cell phone in your desk drawer, get out of your office, and take time to listen to people; give your undivided attention, genuinely value the perspective and opinions of others, and be emotionally available—without distractions or mental multitasking.
  5. Be generous. Bring a generous, servant heart to your work. Think of ways you can bring value to others rather than what you can get from others. Be a giver not a taker. Grant grace by extending unmerited kindness, forgiveness, or understanding, especially when someone has wronged you or fallen short.
  6. Be curious. Approach others with genuine, open-ended questions and a desire to understand their perspectives without judgment or preconceived notions. Be a life-long learner, committed to always improving
  7. Be responsible. Rather than waiting for or expecting others to meet your needs, choose to be answerable for the greater good. Replace entitlement with gratitude. See all blame as a waste of time. Instead of waiting to be told, take initiative. See it. Own it. Solve it.
  8. Be loyal in people’s absence. Uphold the dignity and respect of others by speaking positively or defending them when they aren’t present to do so themselves. Rather than talking about people, spend time talking about solutions.
  9. Be consistent. Consistency in words and actions allows others to predict and rely on you. Consistency is poise under pressure. Show up consistently – even when it isn’t comfortable, painless, or popular.
  10. Be honest. Being honest means communicating truthfully and transparently. But honesty is also about embracing the bad news. It’s courageously facing the demands of reality, whether problems, failures, or others’ behaviors—without denial, distortion, or avoidance.

Earning trust means being strong enough for others to depend on you while vulnerable enough to relate to. It’s not about pretentious perfection. It’s about authentic presence.

In an age of skepticism, fostering genuine trust is more vital and more challenging than ever. Cultivating trust – the invisible foundation of thriving communities and organizations – is both an act of courage and an act of love.

Authenticity: The Uncomfortable Truth About Being Real

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That which we are most capable of teaching to others is what we are most in need of developing within ourselves.

Since downsizing last year and letting go of our beautiful acreage, we have moved into a world with less financial stress and more simplicity and freedom. The past eighteen months have been a mix of immense gratitude for the newfound ease in our lives and some sorrow for what we let go of. Amidst much reflection, I’ve also been writing my memoir with my daughter, Hayley, and it is filling me with a whirlwind of raw emotions, insights, vulnerability, and much cathartic release. As a result, I find myself on the threshold of a new identity where my old way of seeing the world is dissolving and a quieter, more honest clarity is forming.

Last fall, in the middle of a presentation about authentic leadership, I heard myself talking in a voice that wasn’t my own, speaking words and phrases that I had learned to keep others comfortable and myself safe rather than speaking what I truly knew. The inauthenticity of the experience, the cost of bending to others’ expectations, was not only ironic, but suddenly became too heavy to ignore. It was in that moment that I felt a disobedience, a quiet collapse of the pattern that I had spent decades shaping – to please, to accommodate, to imitate. It was finally time to step into the messy, uncomfortable frontier where life could actually be lived.

I returned to my hotel room, collapsing into a chair, feeling empty, and recognizing that I had spent years sculpting my life around the expectations and demands of others, while neglecting so much of my own soul. I asked myself, “What am I avoiding by keeping this veneer of accommodation?” It was an invitation to begin to meet the parts of myself that have been exiled, hidden, or silenced in the service of belonging.

I am beginning to see authenticity in a whole new way. I am finally able to see the uncomfortable truth that being real is not just about blunt honesty, but about the courage to risk being misunderstood. To say, “this is what I stand for,” and “this is what I long for,” even when it doesn’t necessarily fit the role others expect. Shaping a life and a business focused entirely around meeting other people’s needs, I was not simply being nice or kind or generous; I was practicing a kind of impersonation, wearing a mask that eventually became my face. And that this, over time, was becoming a kind of slow death — not because there was anything “wrong” with me, but because I was afraid to be more fully human.

I’ve realized my heart has a voice that doesn’t bargain for approval, applause, or employment. It simply asks to be heard. All your heart ultimately cares about is meaning and intimate connection with life, not success or perfection. It wants a richly textured existence that includes beauty, sorrow, contradiction, and mystery, rather than a sanitized and scripted life.

I now see this time as not just letting go of our acreage and lifestyle but also of my old identity. I am finally able to acknowledge how I learned early that my worth is tied to usefulness, approval, and the absence of conflict. The cost was that I was busy, successful, pressured, and stressed to avoid the inner emptiness. It became too difficult to keep up the façade and I now am experiencing what it means to follow the true path to authenticity.

The core of authentic leadership lies in emphasizing self-discovery over imitation, having the courage to express your unique voice amid the pressure of approval. In the words of Warren Bennis, leadership is “synonymous with becoming yourself.” It’s that simple, and it’s that complex. The essence of leadership is not to try to become a “leader.” The essence of leadership is self-expression in the service of others as the path to impact. Rather than adopting borrowed roles, it’s about becoming yourself, and to use all your gifts, skills and passion to make your vision manifest, holding nothing back.

The Path to Authentic Leadership

Grant Yourself Some Grace. Recognize that people-pleasing – negating yourself for the care of others – is a shield against vulnerability. It’s often rooted in perfectionism and fear of disapproval and rejection. Cut yourself a little slack with the same kindness you’d offer a loved one. Acknowledge that suppressing yourself stems from a desire for belonging yet inevitably leads to resentment and guilt.

Make Room for Stillness. The best part of downsizing is that by taking some stress away it allows time to be with yourself. While uncomfortable at first, the stillness makes room for some new perspective to emerge. Stillness is defined as awareness without thought. While the surface of a lake may be tormented by a storm, stillness is that place below the surface that is immune from the tempest. Stillness can take the form of a formal meditation or prayer but can also be found during the course of a day when you slow down and are present to what is in and around you.

Find a Sanctuary. Listening to your heart, distinguishing your inner voice from the voices that clamor for attention outside, requires a place where one can hear it. A sanctuary is a haven where you find refuge from demands, turn off the noise of the world, and attend to the voice within. Claiming sanctuary is part of our nature — it is both innate and necessary for us to want to retreat regularly. “If you don’t go within, you will go without.”

Create Transition Rituals. “Ritual” comes from the Sanskrit word rita, meaning that which illumines your transitions. Transitional rituals are practices that illuminate your nature, bring you back to your center, especially when you are making a transition from one role into another – from work to home, from home to work, between stressful meetings, etc. Examples to try: 1) music; 2) quiet time; 3) exercise or bodywork; 4) connection to nature; 5) inspired reading or conversations…

Disconnect To Connect. The ability to concentrate and connect with your authentic self is a skill that can be learned. It’s a habit. Connect to what matters most and disconnect from what matters least. Schedule time to use technology and social media. Schedule time when you can’t be reached. Answer e-mails only during a set time each day.

Find Confidants. We all need support to discover and connect with our authenticity. Confidants hold a safe space for us to be who we are. Providing perspective, they ask questions like, “What’s going on here?” “How are you – really?” “What does your heart say?” They help us hedge against self-deception by asking, “What is the truth?” “What can be learned from the mistake?” “What are your options for corrective action?” True confidants will also have the courage to ask the tough question: “How are you contributing to the problem you are venting about?”

Preserve A Sense of Purpose. We all need a sense of purpose that gets us up early and keeps us inspired. A sense of purpose helps us take setbacks and failures in stride, enables us to step back and review why we do what we do, and renews our energy.

Welcome Amor Fati. Amor Fati is a Latin phrase that means “love of one’s fate.” Amor Fati points to an attitude where you don’t just tolerate what happens in your life—including suffering, loss, and mistakes—but actively embrace it as necessary and meaningful. Instead of wishing circumstances were different, Amor Fati invites you to see every event as raw material for growth, strength, and wisdom, to the point where you would not want your past or present to be otherwise. Step into depth, meaning, and liberation by befriending the darkness.