Entries by David Irvine

Why “being nice” and avoiding hard conversations isn’t really “nice” at all

Have you ever met a “nice” person who is polite, but hard to connect with? There’s a difference between being nice and being kind. The chart illustrates an extreme dichotomy between the two. Nice comes from insecurity, a lack of confidence Kind comes from high self-worth and respect Nice is polite aloofness Kind is genuine […]

Don’t Get Stuck In The Pursuit Of Perfection: The Power of Small, Continuous Improvement

I’ve always had a hard time enjoying an activity because of my unrealistic expectations of perfection. Years ago I took piano lessons and I recall how much I practiced Für Elise focusing on perfection. I became hyper-aware of each barely noticeable flaw and when a finger slipped and shattered any illusion I had of perfection, […]

You Can’t Leave Belonging To Chance

If you think about the time you have spent in your family, at school, and organizations you’ve worked in, you know what it feels like to belong or not belong, and why it matters. It’s the difference between feeling isolated, detached, and irrelevant, and feeling connected, valued, and engaged. Belonging makes all the difference. We […]

Is it well-loved?

For the past several weeks while looking at houses, our realtor introduced an expression, “This house has been well loved.” Now at some showings, I find myself saying, “This is not a well-loved house.” Some people truly turn a house into a home that is worth loving, while some only take from their surroundings. This […]

Simple Living in a Complex World: Transitions, Aristotle, and Coming Home

Selling a house can be an emotional undertaking, a journey of self-discovery. It is a bittersweet experience as we downsize to simplify our lives. Our peaceful home and the soothing nature reserve alongside it has been a haven to me and our family for almost two decades. It’s a place where I connected with my […]