What’s the difference between tension and relaxation?
I hate to admit it, but I have spent a good part of my life trying to live up to an image to impress others. I call it impression management. It’s exhausting managing impressions and constantly regulating myself. There’s a constant fear of doing something that doesn’t correspond with the image I am trying to […]
Your phone is not your friend.
“People have always tended to be the servants of their technologies.” -Marshall McLuhan Many couples have come to me for counseling who are actually “too married.” That is, they have an “enmeshed relationship,” characterized by a lack of boundaries, loss of individual identity, and fear of abandonment. In essence, they have no relationship with themselves […]
How to hold yourself accountable to be authentic.
Authenticity is when your actions are a full expression of who you are in a way that contributes to the world. You are in alignment with what life wants from you. The Authentic Way is the awareness that you don’t need to change yourself; you need to come home to yourself. Words I hear used […]
This week is Mental Health Awareness Week
The theme for Mental Health Awareness Week this year is “My Story,” highlighting that we are all unique with valuable stories of the human experience. Every one of us has been impacted by our own or a close friend or family member’s mental health challenge. Mental health affects us all. Let’s continue to work together […]
A Time For Letting Go
My mother used to say that she spent the first half of her life accumulating things and the second half getting rid of them. The important things in life, she learned, aren’t things. At this stage of my life, I get it. After months of reflection, Val and I have decided to simplify our life […]
From a TO-DO List to a TO-BE List
Successful people have some kind of a to-do list – stuff that needs doing this year, this week, this day. Living authentically means having a to-be list: How will you show up in your life? What kind of person will you be when you come to work? What kind of a leader will you be? […]
Don’t promote insecure people.
Insecurity and positional power don’t mix well. But I see it all the time. Someone is placed in a position of authority and they use that authority to get work done. “I’m the boss so do as I say.” While you might get short-term results, if you aren’t secure enough to listen and value the […]
The Workplace as a Classroom for Self-Development
Work harder on yourself than you do on your job. It was a phrase that changed Jim Rohn’s life. As the legendary personal development speaker and author famously said, “If you work on your job, you’ll make a living. If you work on yourself, you’ll make a fortune.” The best leaders are committed to life-long learning. […]
What a legend can teach us about leadership
The past week we lost a legend. Bob Cole, the eminent broadcaster for Hockey Night in Canada for fifty years, was a beloved and iconic figure in Canadian sports. His passing was felt by hockey fans across the country. Bob Cole was the long time play-by-play voice of Hockey Night In Canada. He was also […]
How To Be Authentic About Mental Health In The Workplace
According to a recent HBR article, up to 80% of people will experience a diagnosable mental health condition over the course of their lifetime, whether they know it or not and almost 60% of employees have never spoken to anyone at work about it. It means that the effects of the stigma still loom large. […]
